Nice. I guess ive always "known", and at one time (20-21) I started to face my attraction towards both sexes. I lived in florida at the time, went to all the raves.... did all the hard drugs (fun) and ended up going away for a few years because of my drug habits.

I though once I was clean that the "fog" would clear and I would not be so confused, lost as to my own identity and sexuality.

WRONG.

I have been able to push it into the back of my mind, not act on what I once felt so strongly. Know what? It's back....and it's pissed.

Let me explain; My g/f recently talked me into going to a "gay" club. Hell, with no rave culture here in Oklahoma it's the only place that plays my favorite types of music, techno & trance.

Being around attractive BI guys and girls awakened something in me I thought was long dead....a faze from the past that was the direct result of too many drugs. Minimize it all I like, but what I felt then, and feel now is real...and once again, at 29 I must deal with it.

Ive only came out to 2 people in my life. My parents, friends and old lovers would NEVER believe I was Bi...no way. I'm that attractive guy that simply loves the leg, you know?

I'm soo torn. I'm old enough now to "know" that personal happiness is dependant on self-honesty above all. I, like anyone, want to be happy, but I feel more than a little silly just now dealing with this at 29. My g/f, who is also Bi, doesn't know... not that she would judge me for it... I know it will be quiet the opposite, she will be supportive like I need her to be. Least until I want to be with someone of the same sex.

Has anyone else gone through this at the same age as I? I guess I need, for some odd reason, assurance that I am not the first to wait till im 30 to deal with this.....

Hi,
No you're not the first to wait till 30. Actually for me its much later than that.
Similar to what you seem to imply, I don't know whether to tell my partner or how to fit it into my couple. But do you basically feel good about liking both ? Despite some self consciousness, I get the feeling you do.

Some background on me:
I'm kind of where you are except in a left hand way: I'm coming at this from a gay perspective, my partner and previous loves being guys.
I guess when young I was far more turned off by women's stereotypical roles then their bodies, and now all that's changed (I grew up a long time ago, in the 50's and 60's) I did date girls and make out some when younger, though, before going out with guys.
Anyway, for the last couple years when I go dancing or biking or take public transit, I find myself looking at (and cruising) almost as many girls as guys. Not to say its dozens each ! But this has somewhat suprised me. I'm rather liking it though.

As I'm pushing 60, there's that "last call" feeling. So I don't want to waste what seems to be a happy turn of events. My main worry: if I really break the ice and fall for some girl, what can I actually do without hurting my partner ?