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Subject: Bisexual or Homosexual - How do you know?
Content: Bisexual or Homosexual - How do you know? (new) How do you know?  I am at a hard point in my life right now.  I am 30 years old and I've been in love once, but it didn't work out.  He wanted to live in the north and I wanted more from life as well as my own career.  I wasn't going to be like everyone else.  Barefoot and pregnant planning each meal at dinner time for the rest of my life.  I wanted to but bread on the table too.  I still love him and he does me, but we realized we wanted very different things out of life.  Now for some reason that I can explain, I have become more aware of different sexual preferences and I have many friends from my current work envirionment that have introduced me to the "other" side.  They like to joke and call it that.  I wasn't a homophob by no means, but I just wasn't exposed to it.  Really to me it's nothing different.  This has caused me to think now though.  I have been thinking about my relationships with friends here and now and friends from the past.  I think as far back as middle school.  I had this admiration for my basketball coach, but now I think it was more than that.  I think that I had a crush on her.  Then I had friends Courtney, Sarah and Christi.  They all had boyfriends at the time, but I was jealous of them spending time with them.  I wasn't jealous that they had boyfriends because I wanted one, I was jealous because I wanted them.  Same thing when I moved to Florida.  I thought I was upset when we would drift apart because I wanted a best friend, but I really wanted a committed relationship.  I was searching for this and I am still searching for this with straight people and becoming frustrated more and more each time.  I do have a serious problem.  If I am in fact gay, I have a problem with that.  I am not afraid of being myself with society, but I do around my family.  I know that I am not the only one that feels this way.  I just feel it is easier with society because it is easier for other orientations to get by, it's becoming no big deal, but in my family I would be an outcast.  I am going to take them into consideration, but it is I feel time for me to find happiness.  I really just want a best friend and companion that I know will be in it for the long haul.  I am not interested in meeting person after person and game playing.  I want the real deal.  Sexually I am attracted to both men and women for different reasons.  Emotionally and relationship I would be more likely to be with a woman for what I am looking for in a relationship.    I guess I want to know or hear your stories I how you first discovered you were gay.  I need help on finding places to meet bi-curious or bi-sexual people.  They don't exactly advertise it unless on dating sites.  I wanted something more intimate at first.   Any tips or information to help me through this time would be greatly appreciated.